Why blame the aggressor when you can blame the victim?

In an effort to protect a boy in elementary school from bullying, the school administration has banned him from carrying his My Little Pony lunchbox to school.

While you can read the story here: School Bans Boy From Wearing My Little Pony Backpack, Claims It’s ‘A Trigger For Bullying’, I’d like to talk about what is inherently wrong with this approach to ending harassment.  Namely, it’s that you have shamed the victim.  The administration here has pointed the finger at Grayson and told him that so long as he adheres to guidelines his bullies prefer, he won’t have any issues.  Why in the hell are we pointing at a child and telling them they have to change reasonable behavior instead of going after the real issue here?  Why aren’t the bullies being punished?  How does it make any sense to have *this* as the response from the administration?

I honestly have no words for my anger and frustration at this particular type of response to violence and my very impotence at expressing myself only escalates this feeling.  I can only imagine how poor Grayson feels.


Women with swords...without the chainmail bikini.

For everyone out there who says that a woman cannot compete on equal footing with a man, please take a look here. At the Harcourt Park World Invitational Jousting Tournament in New Zealand, Sarah Hay was 1st in jousting and 2nd overall by points. This was not in the ladies jousting competition – there was no his and hers jousting. Sarah competed at something that takes skill and courage and training.

I’d say she deserves respect. What do you think?

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How many roads must a girl walk down before we stop focussing on her clothing?

Found online this morning a link to a really well written article: For strong daughters, stop with the sex stereotypes. An article written by a father in regards to his daughter and the sad way in which our society seems so prone to overlooking her skills and abilities even at her young age in favor of praising her for her fashion sense.

Because we still do live in a world where men are praised more for their abilities and women for how they look and what they can do for others. As he points out, it starts at a young age and carries through our lives.  Men are remembered for their accomplishments and contributions to society.  Women are remembered for how they looked and how well they took care of their families.

I have no children of my own, but I have friends that do.  Both sons and daughters.  And I am very proud to see them bringing up compassionate sons and strong, creative daughters as well as the reverse.  I try to help where I can.

This world is what we shape it to be, and if we don’t pay close attention those things we denounce so vociferously continue to carry forward from our generation to the next.